Introducing a Vibrator into your relationship – Do’s

It’s important to ease your partner into using a vibrator with you. If they are completely against it, you might have to soften them up first, but whatever you do, steer clear of some things (Things you just shouldn’t do) Now that you know what to steer clear of, take a look at a few ways to show your partner why using a vibrator together is an awesome form of sex play.

Remember: Just because you haven’t said or done anything bad doesn’t mean that your partner is going to be ready to use a vibrator. You might still be treading on thin ice, so be cautious and always compassionate.

Here are some helpful tips that might turn your dildo talk into dildo play!

Do

• Bring up using a vibrator when the mood is right.
  By the mood being right, we mean make sure a discussion about vibrators doesn’t happen when your partner is agitated or tired. Relax and let the troubles of the day melt away. Make a nice dinner. Set a comfortable ambiance in somewhere other than the bedroom, so your partner does not feel anxious or pressured.
• Explain what a vibrator is and does
  As silly as it sounds, you need to do this. Your partner might not know that there are many kinds of vibrator, not all of them look like the Rabbit Habbit™. Explain to your partner that a vibrator could help both of you reach more powerful orgasms and that they are even helpful assets in making women squirt (if that’s what you’re into). Let your partner know that a vibrating toy is in no way a substitute to him or her, and that you are completely satisfied but just want to try something new.
• Let your partner know that you are already satisfied with your sex life
  Reinforce to your partner that there is nothing wrong with your sex life; in fact, if you were dissatisfied you probably would have given up on talking about it. Tell your partner that you enjoy the two of you alone, but that you are curious about the way he or she could make you feel with a sex toy. Also, let them know that a vibrator can be used when he or she is away on business.
• Listen to your partner
  If nothing else, listen to your partner. He or she has some very important things to say. Sex is a form of communication within the relationship, as is the conversing. If you don’t take the time to hear him or her out and be compassionate about their feelings and concerns, dildos in your sexual routine will most likely be a no-no.
• Lubricant
  If you don’t already use one, introduce lubricants into your sex play. The wet and wild sensations can evoke naughty thoughts and be an excellent way to persuade your partner into using a vibrator.
• Shop Together
  Get online or go to a sex toy store together. Encourage your partner to get to know the toys and see how they feel and work. Hands-on experiences are always the best way to persuade someone to do something.